Large families are a magnet for probing questions. Natural curiosity compels complete strangers to blurt out the most deeply personal inquiries when they meet a couple with a lot of kids:
- Are they all yours?
- From the same husband?
- Don’t you know what causes that?
- Did you have them naturally?
- Were they all planned?
- Do I need to buy you a TV?
- Are you going to have any more?
People don’t wait until you have a full dozen to start asking, either. Sometimes a third or fourth baby is all it takes to put you in the hot seat concerning your reproductive gameplan.
I usually don’t mind such questions — they’re great conversation starters — nor do I normally take offense when people want to know more about what makes our family tick.
But when a reporter recently asked me, “Are you done?”, I think it triggered a more visceral response than he was expecting:
Which begs another question: Is it really crazy to want a lot of children?
That’s what I’ve been hearing for my last ten pregnancies. There’s nothing like having a random stranger pronounce you insane based entirely upon your family size!
In our heart of hearts, we can’t see anything crazy about wanting a bunch of kids. In fact, we can rattle off a lengthy list of benefits to having a big family — not the least of which is postponing our empty nest for a few extra years!
But the world calls us crazy, so we’ve learned to embrace that label. And in one sense, it fits: We are crazy in love, and we don’t care who knows it.
We love each other. We love the Lord. And we love all the wonderful children He has entrusted to our care.
Are you “crazy” about children, too? What’s the weirdest question you’ve been asked about your brood? Share in the comments below, along with your standard answer.
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