{"id":14664,"date":"2016-03-14T07:38:31","date_gmt":"2016-03-14T12:38:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.flandersfamily.info\/web\/?p=14664"},"modified":"2023-08-19T11:06:42","modified_gmt":"2023-08-19T16:06:42","slug":"whats-on-your-empty-nest-list","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.flandersfamily.info\/web\/2016\/03\/14\/whats-on-your-empty-nest-list\/","title":{"rendered":"What’s on Your Empty Nest List?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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I received the following message last week about my empty nest list from a reader in response to my post, When Strangers Count Our Kids and Ask If We’re Done<\/a>, and I decided to share it here:<\/em><\/p>\n

\"Monday<\/p>\n

Question: What is on your empty nest list?<\/h2>\n

Oh Jennifer!<\/p>\n

I am 45 with 10 children, my youngest is 2, and tears come to my eyes when I think that we might not be blessed with any more<\/strong>. I LOVE the idea of an empty nest list, the trouble is, I can\u2019t imagine what kinds of things to put on it! Mind sharing?<\/p>\n

Blessings to you!
\nApril<\/p>\n

Response: Anything that currently interests me!<\/h2>\n

Dear April,<\/p>\n

I’m right there with you in the tears department<\/strong>, as you undoubtedly noticed at the end of our America Tonight<\/em> interview<\/a>.<\/p>\n

I actually wrote an article on my other blog, Loving Life at Home<\/a>, several years ago about the sort of things I have on my empty nest list<\/a>, which is ever expanding, incidentally! (I’ll reprint a portion of that original post at the end of this response, to give you a few ideas for starting an empty nest list of your own.)<\/p>\n

Finding a Balance<\/h3>\n

I’m careful to balance that list with another I call my “Do It Now” list<\/a>, which is full of all those joys and pleasures of my present life (such as cuddling littles and reading them picture books and listening to their stories) and serves as a reminder to enjoy them all fully while I still have the opportunity to do so.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The thinking is that by faithfully attending to my “Do It Now” list, I will have fewer regrets when it comes time to tackle the “Empty Nest” list. Remaining present in the present and regarding the future with hope rather than fear<\/strong> — I believe that is the key to contentment<\/a>.<\/p>\n

At this writing, four of our chicks have now fledged, and I realize with a wince that the others will soon follow. The fifth is perched on the edge of the nest even now and will have flown off for good by late spring. <\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s a bittersweet time for mama bird. I’m proud and excited to see them go, so full of promise and potential, yet I’m painfully aware that our home will never be the same without them. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Ideas for the Next Season<\/h3>\n

It’s hard to let go, and I don’t anticipate the process getting any easier. So several years ago, I began to compile what I call my empty nest list<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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    Revisit Old Hobbies<\/h4>\n

    Some of the items on the list are things I enjoyed in earlier seasons of my life<\/strong> and would like to revisit:<\/p>\n