{"id":14365,"date":"2016-02-08T21:15:49","date_gmt":"2016-02-09T03:15:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.flandersfamily.info\/web\/?p=14365"},"modified":"2022-07-12T06:40:09","modified_gmt":"2022-07-12T11:40:09","slug":"mailbag-date-nights-happiness-and-intimacy-issues","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.flandersfamily.info\/web\/2016\/02\/08\/mailbag-date-nights-happiness-and-intimacy-issues\/","title":{"rendered":"Mailbag: Date Nights, Happiness, and Intimacy Issues"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.flandersfamily.info\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/QandA.png?resize=1024%2C367&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"Monday Mailbag\" width=\"1024\" height=\"367\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-18993\" \/><\/p>\n<p><em>We&#8217;ve received several questions from readers lately on topics that seem better suited to our other blogs &#8212; topics such as intimacy issues and date nights. So we&#8217;ve taken the liberty of answering them there. <strong>Click through the links to read our responses to the following questions:<\/em><br \/>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2>Date Night Dilemmas<\/h2>\n<p><strong>What&#8217;s a wife to do whose husband shows no initiative in making date night a priority?<\/strong> Jennifer tackles this question on her blog, <a href=\"http:\/\/lovinglifeathome.com\/2016\/02\/03\/date-night-what-if-my-husband-wont-plan-it\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Loving Life at Home<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/lovinglifeathome.com\/2016\/02\/03\/date-night-what-if-my-husband-wont-plan-it\/\" target=\"blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.flandersfamily.info\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/LL-Date-Night.jpg?resize=1024%2C654&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"Date Night: What to do if your husband won&#039;t plan it.\" width=\"1024\" height=\"654\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-14366\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h2>How Can I Be a Happier Person? <\/h2>\n<p>Sometimes the old adage, &#8220;Choose Joy,&#8221; is easier said than done. <strong>If you tend to focus on the negative side of things, here are <a href=\"http:\/\/lovinglifeathome.com\/2015\/12\/19\/qa-how-can-i-be-a-happier-person\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">6 helpful tips<\/a> for changing your perspective:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/lovinglifeathome.com\/2015\/12\/19\/qa-how-can-i-be-a-happier-person\/\" target=\"blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.flandersfamily.info\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/6-Simple-Secrets-of-Happy-People.png?resize=1024%2C741&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"6 Simple Secrets of Extremely Happy People\" width=\"1024\" height=\"741\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-14372\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.flandersfamily.info\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/6-Simple-Secrets-of-Happy-People.png?w=600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.flandersfamily.info\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/6-Simple-Secrets-of-Happy-People.png?resize=300%2C217&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.flandersfamily.info\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/6-Simple-Secrets-of-Happy-People.png?resize=250%2C181&amp;ssl=1 250w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h2>Dealing with a Disinterested Spouse<\/h2>\n<p><strong>What&#8217;s a husband to do whose wife won&#8217;t sleep with him? <\/strong>Doug answers this question on his blog, <a href=\"http:\/\/alltruthisgodstruth.com\/2016\/01\/31\/what-to-do-when-your-wife-wont-sleep-with-you\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">All Truth Is God&#8217;s Truth<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Note: In the past, we&#8217;ve addressed this same topic for wives in marriages where the roles are reversed. <strong>If you&#8217;re interested, but he&#8217;s not, you may want to read the following posts<\/strong> on Jennifer&#8217;s blog:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/lovinglifeathome.com\/2015\/08\/10\/qa-what-if-my-drive-is-stronger-than-his\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">What if My Drive is Stronger than His?<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/lovinglifeathome.com\/2012\/06\/27\/how-to-handle-a-disinterested-husband\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">How to Handle a Disinterested Husband<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/alltruthisgodstruth.com\/2016\/01\/31\/what-to-do-when-your-wife-wont-sleep-with-you\/\" target=\"blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.flandersfamily.info\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/What-Am-I-Supposed-to-Do-e1454979780164.jpg?w=1024&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"What to Do If Your Wife Won&#039;t Sleep with You\"   class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-14370\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Each of these questions (on <a href=\"http:\/\/lovinglifeathome.com\/2016\/02\/03\/date-night-what-if-my-husband-wont-plan-it\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">prioritizing date night<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/lovinglifeathome.com\/2015\/12\/19\/qa-how-can-i-be-a-happier-person\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">cultivating happiness<\/a>, and <a href=\"http:\/\/alltruthisgodstruth.com\/2016\/01\/31\/what-to-do-when-your-wife-wont-sleep-with-you\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">dealing with disinterest<\/a>) have prompted some lively discussions on our other blogs, which tells us <strong>the topics hit home with a lot of our readers<\/strong>. That&#8217;s why we decided to share the links here, as well.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Have another question you&#8217;d like to see addressed in this column?<\/strong> <a href=\"mailto:flandersfamily@flandersfamily.info?subject=Question for Monday Mailbag\">Write us here<\/a> to submit it. And for more marriage encouragement, check out my book <a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/3j6J22Y\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Love Your Husband, Love Yourself<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/3j6J22Y\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.flandersfamily.info\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2008\/07\/Ad-Love-Husband-Love-Self-Banner.png?resize=1024%2C724&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"Love Your Husband, Love Yourself\" width=\"1024\" height=\"724\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-30758\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We&#8217;ve received several questions from readers lately on topics that seem better suited to our other blogs &#8212; topics such as intimacy issues and date nights. 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